Husband and wife psychology clinic (Preface)
one person different monogamy, at first glance is just a combination of a man and woman, between simple; is not the case, the couple is not only two people, the more the two families, two social (The family is a microcosm of society) the combination of very complex relationship. each family unit is a unique culture, its own unique lifestyle, values, power operation and communication. Thus, when two people from different family backgrounds of men and women live together, do not step, can not you call my heart, I can not give you the meaning as a phenomenon, it will have an endless stream of.
Let us look at the following common lens:
Mr. quarter of each world class home, leaning against the couch and watch to report, no matter how busy his wife in the kitchen and more urgent and more chaos, he unmoved. because he thought his wife to cook, her husband enjoy, of course.
quarter of his wife is not. She The classic style of her husband very unhappy. She believes that cooking the wife, husband to help, only right and proper.
the couple's attitude on how such a path home court? the original, Mr. quarter at home are taught from childhood: Hero should be Kong Wuwei wind, doing housework is grew up over many years,UGGs, inevitably branded with their own family brand. The mark of the features are two: First, self-affirmation, Results issued to couples from the rights and obligations to the operation of power, who can cut into equal portions so as cut apples? who emotionally, interests and career on the line to obtain an absolute? such as these can never be equality of husband and wife equations , maybe just a little awkward just started, but over time, will feel increasingly tense with each other, as if there are blocks of stones shoes, feel uncomfortable at first but can be far away the road, worn leather, you will wound Xin Fu.
Second, how to make the mental adjustment stones, never worn comfortably to the skin wound Xin Fu, you do not say who knows? wound Xinfu blame? deserve!
marriage psychology research has revealed the so two things: First, the husband and wife between fear of contradiction, I'm afraid the blockage of channels of communication; second is to communicate the importance of timely, early communication more effective, communication and power-fold with half later.
Unfortunately, some couples, especially husbands, the social life of the money type of destruction and the establishment of a new action type, this is a difficult process. those is not, or lament their married (married) had a I appeal to their preferences, I was not satisfied your needs. That being so, investment and you opt not to like-minded love it? meet my needs, not on the consistency of the personality you?
Psychology has a famous saying: , anti-reform --- reform, the couple pull data, a vicious cycle, until both sides suffer, suffer emotional impact.
one woman, his son 20 years old, she quarreled with her husband of 20 years of aircraft. One day, she saw her husband and son --- family, both singly and looks are similar, men do relish eating their own food, his mind flashed suddenly realize: the same problem, and even much more serious than the father the son, her son is always inclusive , while her husband was preoccupied with a camel head enemies together, entanglement. to a : a great husband, when his greatest when it is his fault when his wife to forgive; beautiful woman, when she the most beautiful time that she forgive her husband when the fault.
three Fountainhead asked him what so clear, as there is water flowing. constitutes a marital inequality equation is indeed stabilized the weights of the ; love. the right is the wife of a flick. husband's success depends on his wife's support; wife's happiness depends on her husband pave the way. still if the piano, one hand may also be smooth pop melodies, but a bit monotonous; only forced to hand coordination play the colorful and lasting appeal of life movement. This is actually the soul, that is, between husband and wife --- love the unique viscosity.
Please remember: as long as the couple stood in the middle of the set of equations love, even if the left is 1, the right is 10, can never be equated, that is a
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